Xbox Live Survival Guide for Female Gamers

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We all know that Xbox Live can be a scary place, but just imagine how different and downright disgusting it can be through the eyes of the fairer sex. Female gamers get singled out and harassed simply because they are trying to join the boys club that is Xbox Live, and that just isn't fair. So here is The Xbox Live Survival Guide for Female gamers. Also, learn how Xbox Live is improved on Xbox One here.

For the Guys: How to Not be Creepy on Xbox Live

First off, guys, when there is a gal in the room, just leave her alone! You don't need to harass her and ask her what she looks like and send her weird pictures. You can and will be banned from Xbox Live if you harass people too much, so just knock it off. Just because you can hide behind the veil of anonymity doesn't mean have the right to ruin the game for other people. Take a look at our How Not to Get Banned From Xbox Live article for some extra tips.

For the Women: How to Avoid Creepy Guys on Xbox Live

Since most guys probably won't bother to pay attention to that paragraph, you ladies are going to have to take charge of how you are treated online.

  • Use the Player Review Feature - The best thing you can possibly do is use the player review feature on Xbox Live. The whole point behind player reviews is so you can avoid people you don't want to play with again and prefer people you did enjoy playing with. If you take the time to do a player review on everyone that is bugging you, eventually you'll have nothing but a good group of people to play with. And if people are particularly nasty to you (inappropriate language/behavior, inappropriate use of the Vision cam during Uno, etc.) you can file a complaint about them and Microsoft really does pay attention to the complaints. It takes more than one complaint to get someone banned, obviously, but if they are harassing you they are probably harassing other people as well, so don't be afraid to file a complaint and try to get them banned. Xbox Live will be a lot better off without them.
  • Don't Call Attention to Yourself - It isn't fair to have to change how you play and what you do online just to not be harassed, but until the little boys on Xbox Live decide to grow up the best way to not be harassed is probably to just not call attention to yourself. If someone says something inappropriate, ignore them. If you respond to it you are just baiting them to keep harassing you. Let your skills at the game do the talking for you in Halo 5, Call of Duty Black Ops III, or Star Wars Battlefront and when you beat them they will have to respect you whether you are a girl or not.
  • Play With Your Friends - The easiest way to avoid the jerks on Xbox Live is to simply not play with them. Skip matchmaking and find a group of friends to play with instead. Whether they are real life friends or people you meet online through one of the hundreds of gaming websites out there, playing with friends is always, always, always going to be more fun than playing with strangers through matchmaking.
  • Join the Gamerchix - The Gamerchix were a women-only group that you could join on It existed because of exactly what this article is talking about - the simple fact that guys are jerks to women online. Unfortunately, it seems like the Gamerchix isn't really active anymore.

The Bottom Line on Xbox Live Harassment

So here is the wrap-up. First, everyone should follow basic Xbox etiquette. Second, if you're a guy, leave the women alone! Third, if you're being harassed, use the player review and file complaint features. They will help you weed out the jerks from the good guys. Fourth, don't go out of your way to draw attention to yourself. Fifth, find friends to play with. Games are always more fun with people you know.