Who Unfriended Me on Facebook?

How to tell if someone is no longer your friend

Woman in an office confused and angry over being unfriended on Facebook
Being unfriended on Facebook can be confusing and frustrating.

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Being unfriended by a Facebook friend can make you feel confused, frustrated, or even angry, but there are several reasons why the unfriending may have happened, and three ways to confirm that's indeed what happened.

Understanding Public and Friends Facebook Posts

Facebook posts have two primary settings: Public and Friends. Public posts, represented by a small globe icon, are posts that can be read by the poster's Facebook friends, followers, and anyone who happens across their Facebook profile page. Friends posts, which come with a small icon of two people, can only be read by those who are Facebook friends with the post creator.

If you're only seeing Public Facebook posts from an individual, it could be a sign they've decided to unfriend you on FaceBook, but a mutual friend is sharing some of their Public posts for people to see.

It's possible your Facebook friend simply likes sharing more of their posts with a wider audience via the Public setting, though, so this isn't always a confirmation they no longer want to be friends with you.

Search Your Facebook Friend List

A foolproof way to check if someone is still a Facebook friend is to see if they're on your Facebook friends list.

Screenshot of a Facebook friend search.
  1. To check your friend list, visit your profile page on the Facebook website or within the Facebook app.

    Select or tap your profile photo anywhere on Facebook to quickly get to your profile.

  2. Locate the Friends box on your Facebook profile, tap or select the word Friends to view your entire list.

  3. Once on your Friends list, search for your friend's name via the search bar at the top of the screen. Make sure to search for the name they use on Facebook if it's different than their legal name. If they don't show up in the search results, they've unfriended you.

Check Your Friend's Facebook Profile

Another reliable way to check if you've been unfriended by someone is to visit their Facebook profile page directly.

Screenshot image of a Facebook profile with the Add friend button.

If the Add Friend button is visible on their profile, it means you're no longer friends on Facebook.

Is Unfriending the Same as Deleting on Facebook?

Ending a Facebook friendship, deleting someone from your friend list, or removing them from your Facebook contacts all mean the same thing. However, unfriending is the most common way to refer to the action.

Is Unfriending the Same as Blocking on Facebook?

Unfriending someone on Facebook removes someone from your friend list. Blocking someone also unfriends them, and prevents the person from messaging you, seeing your public posts, and even viewing your profile page. Someone blocked on Facebook cannot send the person who blocked them a new friend request.

If you're unable to find your friend on Facebook, you may have been blocked in addition to being unfriended.

Why Was I Unfriended on Facebook?

The motivation for unfriending someone on Facebook varies from person to person. Here are some of the main reasons for being unfriended:

  • You may have had an offline falling out: If your friendship ended in the real world, it makes sense it would end online too.
  • Maybe your posts are too negative: Do you complain too much or are your posts always angry?
  • Facebook purge: It's very common for Facebook users to purge their friend list of people they don't remember or no longer talk too. Being a victim of a purge usually isn't personal and is simply done as a way to better manage a friend list that could have become unwieldy with too many people on it.
  • They might not know who you are: Have you changed your profile image to something ambiguous like a flower or teddy bear? Are you using a nickname or online alias? It can be very hard to remember who everyone is on Facebook and if you're hiding your identity, your friends may think you're a complete stranger they added by accident.

What to Do After Being Unfriended on Facebook

If you think, however unlikely it is, you were unfriended by accident, it could be a good idea to simply send the person a new friend request via their Facebook profile page. If they've blocked you, though, you can try asking a mutual friend to see if they know why that person decided to cut you out of their online life.

If you know why you were unfriended, it's usually best to try and move on and learn from the experience, no matter who was right or wrong in the situation. When the cause of an unfriending is known, any further communication between the two parties can often be interpreted as online harassment, even if you send them a DM or email with the best of intentions.