Who Unfriended Me on Facebook?

How to tell if someone is no longer your friend

A Facebook friend unfriending you can make you feel confused, frustrated, or even angry, but people may have several reasons to remove these connections. You also have three ways to confirm that's indeed what happened.

Understanding Public and Friends Facebook Posts

Facebook posts have two primary settings: Public and Friends. Public posts have a small globe icon. Facebook friends, followers, and anyone who happens across their Facebook profile page can read public posts.. Friends posts come with a small icon of two people. Only people who are friends with the creator of a friends post can read them.

If you're only seeing Public Facebook posts from an individual, it could be a sign they've decided to unfriend you on Facebook, but a mutual friend is sharing some of their Public posts for people to see.

It's possible your Facebook friend simply likes sharing more of their posts with a wider audience via the Public setting, though, so this isn't always a confirmation they no longer want to be friends with you.

Search Your Facebook Friend List

When you want to be absolutely sure someone is still a Facebook friend, check to see if they're on your Facebook friends list.

Screenshot of a Facebook friend search.
  1. To check your friend list, visit your profile page on the Facebook website or within the Facebook app.

    Select or tap your profile photo anywhere on Facebook to quickly get to your profile.

  2. Locate the Friends box on your Facebook profile, tap or select the word Friends to view your entire list.

  3. Once on your Friends list, search for your friend's name via the search bar at the top of the screen. Make sure to search for the name they use on Facebook if it's different than their legal name. If they don't show up in the search results, they've unfriended you.

Check Your Friend's Facebook Profile

Visit the suspected former friend's Facebook profile directly for another reliable way to check if they're still your friend.

Screenshot image of a Facebook profile with the Add friend button.

If the Add Friend button is visible on their profile, you're no longer friends on Facebook.

Is Unfriending the Same as Deleting on Facebook?

Ending a Facebook friendship is the same as deleting someone from your friends list or removing them from your Facebook contacts. Most people refer to them all as unfriending.

Is Unfriending the Same as Blocking on Facebook?

Unfriending someone on Facebook removes someone from your friend list. Blocking someone also unfriends them and prevents the person from messaging you, seeing your public posts, and even viewing your profile page. Someone you've blocked on Facebook cannot send you a new friend request.

If you're unable to find your friend on Facebook, you may have been blocked in addition to being unfriended.

Why Was I Unfriended on Facebook?

The motivation for unfriending someone on Facebook varies from person to person. Here are some of the main reasons for being unfriended:

  • You may have had an offline falling out: If your friendship ended in the real world, it makes sense it would end online too.
  • Maybe your posts are too negative: Do you complain too much or are your posts always angry?
  • Facebook purge: Facebook users commonly purge their friend list of people they don't remember or no longer talk to. Being a victim of a purge usually isn't personal and is simply done as a way to better manage a friend list that could have become unwieldy with too many people on it.
  • They might not know who you are: Have you changed your profile image to something ambiguous like a flower or teddy bear? Are you using a nickname or online alias? It can be very hard to remember who everyone is on Facebook and if you're hiding your identity, your friends may think you're a complete stranger they added by accident.

What to Do After Being Unfriended on Facebook

If you think, however unlikely it is, your friend unfriended you by accident, it could be a good idea to simply send the person a new friend request via their Facebook profile page. If they've blocked you, though, you can try asking a mutual friend to see if they know why that person decided to cut you out of their online life.

If you know why you were unfriended, it's usually best to try and move on and learn from the experience, no matter who was right or wrong in the situation. When the cause of an unfriending is known, any further communication between the two parties can often be interpreted as online harassment, even if you send them a DM or email with the best of intentions.

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