What Does SOML Mean?

This strange online acronym is a common phrase used in everyday conversations

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Are you seeing SOML left in comments on social media or sent to you as a reply to one of your text messages? It's virtually unrecognizable in acronym form, but these four letters actually represent a very popular catchphrase.

SOML stands for:

Story Of My Life.

What SOML Means

When someone uses SOML, they're declaring that their own life follows a common theme or trend in response to a prior comment. The acronym helps people express how they can relate to other people's negative events of situations they're experiencing in their lives.

It's easier to empathize with others when you've gone through similar experiences of your own, and using SOML is just one way to communicate that you know what they're going through. It also lets others know that they're not alone in whatever they're going through, which might help them see their negative life experiences from a broader perspective.

How SOML Is Used

SOML is often used as a reply to another person or as a comment following a statement. In cases where a person uses SOML after making a statement), it might sound like they're talking to themselves or telling a story. (See Example 3 below.)

SOML is almost always used as a standalone phrase, so you're less likely to find it used in the middle of a sentence. A message might not contain any other content except the acronym SOML. Alternatively, the acronym could be used either before or after other sentences containing additional information.

Examples of SOML in Use

Example 1

Friend #1: "Srsly haven't done laundry in like 5 weeks. My life is a mess."

Friend #2: "SOML"

In the first example above, Friend #2 uses SOML as a standalone reply to relate to Friend #1's situation, helping them to express that they also go long stretches without doing any laundry themselves. In this case, Friend #1 feels that nothing else needs to be said.

Example 2

Friend #1: "Didn't make it to class this morning. Honestly can't stop sleeping in these days, my sleep routine is totally backwards... what did I miss?"

Friend #2: "SOML... I didn't go either. I'll ask Chris."

In this second example, Friend #2 uses SOML to relate and express that they also have trouble with getting up on time and getting to class. They decided to add additional information after saying SOML to make it clear that they didn't go to class.

Example 3

Facebook status update: "Saw a guy on the bus spend his entire commute trying to untangle the wire for his headphones. SOML, bro. Next paycheck I'm getting myself a wireless pair."

In this last example, SOML is used to tell a story rather than as a reply to someone's statement about their own life. A Facebook users posts a status update explaining an event he witnessed another person experience before using SOML to express his own relatable struggles.

A Note About Using SOML Yourself

If you want to add SOML to your own acronym vocabulary, make sure you limit its use for when you want to relate to another person's negative life events—not their positive ones. SOML is an expression of empathy, which is what people are seeking from their friends and relatives when they decide to share their negative experiences.

If you use SOML in response to somebody's positive life experience, you're not giving them the appreciation or recognition they're really looking for. Instead, you might sound like you're trying to compete with or one-up them by declaring that you, too, have experienced similar successes.