How to Safely Unfriend a Facebook Creeper

A kinder, gentler method

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The top voted definition of a creeper on Urban Dictionary is "A person who does weird things, like stares at you while you sleep, or looks at you for hours through a window. Usually a close friend or relative."

Sometimes we befriend people that end up being Facebook creepers and, while we may want to unfriend them, we are afraid to, for fear that they might hunt us down and harm us or send us unsolicited Grumpy Cat memes.

How can you unfriend a Facebook creeper in a friendly way so that they won't seek retribution? You have the right to unfriend or defriend someone at any time, however, you may want to consider a different tack. Here are Some Suggestions for Keeping Creepers out of Your Facebook Life

Consider a Creeper Abatement Strategy Instead of Unfriending

Let's face it, if you unfriend a creeper, you might hurt their feelings. Depending on how unstable they are, those hurt feelings may lead to more negative outcomes. You might want to consider a more polite way to distance yourself from your creeper instead of unfriending them.

If you have to deal with this creeper in your daily life, unfriending them may create some awkward moments, especially if they are a close relative such as an aunt, uncle, or your spouse.

Don't think they'll notice when you unfriend them? Facebook doesn't notify when someone unfriends you, but if they are a true expert-level creeper, they likely have an unfriend finder script running on their computer that takes a snapshot of their total number of friends and checks over time to see if there are any changes. Trust me, they'll know, they always know.

One possible way to keep your creepers at a distance is to quit feeding them your Facebook updates. Here are a couple of ways to highly limit what your creeper sees without unfriending them:

Add Your Facebook Creepers to the "Restricted List"

Facebook allows you to restrict what certain friends can see. People on your "Restricted List" can only see posts that you make "Public". So basically, they are still on your friend's list but they're highly restricted in what they can view (assuming you don't have everything set to "public" that is).

You can add friends to your restricted list by performing the following:

1. Click on the Facebook padlock icon from the top-right corner of your Facebook homepage.

2. Choose "See More Settings" from the bottom of the menu.

3. Click "Blocking" from the menu on the left of the screen and then choose "Edit List" from the "Manage Blocking" > "Restricted List" section of the page.

4. Click the drop-down menu in the top left corner of the window that opens and choose "Friends".

5. Choose the friends (creepers) you want to restricted and click the "Finish" button.

Change Visibility for Future Postings

Creepers love keeping up to date with your life. Part of a any good creeper abatement strategy is cutting off your flow of status and Facebook content updates to them.

You can easily keep them from seeing future postings by performing the following steps:

1. Click on the Facebook padlock icon from the top-right corner of your Facebook homepage.

2. Click on "Who can see my stuff" from the drop-down menu.

3. Click on the little blue triangle directly below "Who can see my future posts?"

4. Choose "Custom" and locate the text entry box under the "Don't share this with" section of the pop-up Window.

5. Type in the person's name that you want to block your future posts from and click the "Save Changes" button.

This will restrict your status updates so that they are now only viewable by those who are not on your "Don't share this with list", effectively preventing your creepers from keeping up with your updates (assuming you added them to the "Don't share" list).

A Word of Warning

Problems may arise if you and your creeper have a lot of mutual friends. Sometimes a friend might repost something that you posted to your non-creeper friends and your creeper will wonder why they never saw your original post. You should never talk negatively about your creepers thinking they won't see it because inevitably you'll click the wrong list, or they'll see your post on a friends phone and your comments will get back to them.

If Things Get Really Scary

All kidding aside, if you start to get creeped out to the point that you begin to fear for your life because of a creeper's actions, or if threats are made and you believe that your personal safety is at risk, contact your local and/or state law enforcement immediately. A threat, whether it is made over the Internet or in person, should always be taken seriously.